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Martha Beck — The Amazing and Brutal Results of Zero Lies for 365 Days, How to Do a Beginner “Integrity Cleanse,” Lessons from Lion Trackers, and Novel Tactics for Reducing Anxiety (#732)

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It’s never true to hate yourself or condemn yourself. — Martha Beck

Dr. Martha Beck (@themarthabeck) has been called “the best-known life coach in America” by NPR and USA Today. She holds three Harvard degrees in social science and has published nine non-fiction books, one novel, and more than 200 magazine articles. The Guardian and other media have described her as “Oprah’s life coach.”

Her recent book, The Way of Integrity: Finding the Path to Your True Self, was an instant New York Times Best Seller and an Oprah’s Book Club selection. Her next book, Beyond Anxiety: Curiosity, Creativity, and Finding Your Life’s Purpose, is expected in early 2025.

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Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Overcast, Podcast Addict, Pocket Casts, Castbox, YouTube Music, Amazon Music, or on your favorite podcast platform. Watch the interview on YouTube here. The transcript of this episode can be found here. Transcripts of all episodes can be found here.

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#732: Martha Beck — The Amazing and Brutal Results of Zero Lies for 365 Days, How to Do a Beginner “Integrity Cleanse,” Lessons from Lion Trackers, and Novel Tactics for Reducing Anxiety

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What was your favorite quote or lesson from this episode? Please let me know in the comments.

Want to hear an episode with our cherished mutual friend Boyd Varty? Listen to our conversation here in which we discussed the origins of the Londolozi Game Reserve, the ancient lineage of the Shangaan trackers, the hardest animals to track, living 40 days and 40 nights in a tree, beehive algorithms, trauma recovery, ceremony work, the meaning of Ubuntu, and much more.

#571: Boyd Varty — The Lion Tracker’s Guide to Life

SELECTED LINKS FROM THE EPISODE

  • Connect with Martha Beck:

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SHOW NOTES

  • [06:06] My contribution to teen atrociousness.
  • [06:40] Connecting with Boyd Varty.
  • [12:27] The path of not here.
  • [16:38] Finding joy in the body can save your life.
  • [21:17] The pregnant pause that ended Martha’s obsession with intellect.
  • [26:51] Sensitivity and suffering.
  • [30:14] The year of living lie-lessly.
  • [35:36] An illuminating change of perspective.
  • [46:14] The path to taking a black belt integrity cleanse.
  • [49:42] Owning your right to say “No.”
  • [53:45] Alternatives to “No” that remain honest.
  • [57:11] The language of candor.
  • [59:30] Ending relationships that have run their course.
  • [01:00:37] The Asian influence.
  • [01:04:26] Sweet or savory?
  • [01:05:36] Are you comfortable?
  • [01:07:29] Want vs. yearning and jumping the track.
  • [01:20:36] Rhino ruminations.
  • [01:22:06] The Tao Te Ching, Stephen Mitchell, and Byron Katie.
  • [01:33:19] America’s Goethe?
  • [01:36:20] Weighing kryptonite against superpowers.
  • [01:44:50] Exploring the opposite of anxiety.
  • [01:56:38] Dick Schwartz and Internal Family Systems.
  • [02:01:57] Compassion even for the self’s unwanted pieces.
  • [02:04:20] Favorite animal.
  • [02:08:58] Equine therapy.
  • [02:15:06] Selling the ranch.
  • [02:18:05] The monkey whisperer.
  • [02:20:05] Parting thoughts.

MORE MARTHA BECK QUOTES FROM THE INTERVIEW

“It’s never true to hate yourself or to condemn yourself.”

— Martha Beck

“There’s a level beyond just telling the truth, and it is called compassion—and it’s truer.”

— Martha Beck

“When you’re saying ‘Get away, I don’t want you,’ the part of you that does insomnia and depression goes into a panic because it’s now being told it can’t belong. You don’t want it, you’ve rejected it. It ups the ante, and all it knows how to do is keep you awake and make you depressed.”

— Martha Beck

“I said being creative is the opposite of anxiety, but you can’t get to creativity if you don’t start with acceptance and compassion and simple kindness toward the self, toward the parts of the self that are doing the things you can’t stand.”

— Martha Beck

“When you realize that nature is available to you as a companion if you just tell the truth, it really is worth giving everything else up.”

— Martha Beck

“I remembered Emerson’s statement that ‘beauty is its own excuse for being,’ and I thought, ‘Joy is its own excuse for being.’ That is the one thing I can experience that makes it worth sticking around for the suffering this life entails. So I shifted my entire life toward a sort of very simple test: does it bring me joy or does it not? And joy became the track I was following.”

— Martha Beck

“The essential self yearns. The social self wants.”

— Martha Beck

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